Thursday, May 27, 2021

Rory Gilmore is the worst person

I became a Gilmore Girls fan years ago, and recently decided to revisit it. The writing is still sharp, the show is still addictive. But wow, Rory really sucks.

I didn’t like her when I first watched the show and most of that was predicated on her treatment of Dean. But going back, it’s more than just the cheating. She is unbelievably selfish.

While she was dating Dean, Rory started to develop feelings for Jess. That’s ok, people change. But instead of coming clean about her feelings with Dean or ending things she just gets increasingly angry at Dean the more jealous he gets. Despite the fact that he is perfectly justified in his jealousy. This all culminates in her kissing Jess. And years later when Dean is happily married, she then coaxes him into cheating on his wife with her.

Not to mention that while she was in college, she dated a guy called Paul and treated him as an afterthought while devoting all her time and attention to rich boy Logan.

And wow, the show tried to convince us that Logan was a bad influence but really Rory was complicit in all the shit him and his friends did. She stole a yacht and after getting punished for it acted like it was no big deal.

And Lane, poor Lane. Rory’s “best friend” who she almost exclusively uses just to get through her own problems. Of Lane’s hardships Rory is there for her what, one or twice?

But maybe the worst aspect looking back is how she treats her own family, specifically Lorelai. Her mom has basically given her whole adult life to raising Rory and giving her the best opportunities she can, and Rory either pisses those opportunities away or treats her mom like shit for petty reasons.

One of the signatures of the show is Lorelai and Rory’s healing arguments, the fights that are only meant to pull them closer... except for when they don’t, and Rory gets unreasonably angry. Like when she missed Lorelai’s graduation, or literally moving to Europe for the whole summer because Lorelai pointed out that her sleeping with Dean - a married man - was an awful thing to do. And of course Rory’s dream is to become a writer, and she pursues this dream by writing a book... that details Lorelai’s life including all the pain and trauma she wants to forget. Lorelai understandably isn’t okay with this, but Rory writes the book anyway.

And despite Lorelai giving up her rich lifestyle to move away and raise Rory, and despite knowing how much pain her grandparents put her mom through as a teenager, that doesn’t stop her from taking advantage of their love whenever she likes.

So you may think “well at least she’s nice to her grandparents”. Oh sure, when it’s convenient for her. Like her granddad hooking her up with an important interview only for her to lose her shit on him because she feels put on the spot... you’re welcome? Oh and of course Lorelai is the “precious little small-town girl”. She doesn’t fit in with the rich kids at Chilton or with Logan’s friends. Except she totally does, because she uses her affluent families wealth to her benefit as much as any of them.

She treats Lorelai like shit, she treats Dean like shit, she treats Lane like shit, she treats Paul like shit, she uses her grandparents when it benefits her, and when she willingly hooks up with Logan as his side-piece in the revival I’m meant to feel bad for her? Am I?

I don’t know, sometimes it even felt like the Sherman-Palladinos didn’t like her.

Edit: yes I agree with people. Lorelai was a poor role model and should have really tried to be more of a mom than a friend. That being said, I think Rory’s bad actions go beyond her upbringing, and Lorelai for better or worse really tried to do the best she can for her, with her more relaxed style stemming from an overly strict upbringing by her mother which she didn’t want to impose on Rory.



Submitted May 27, 2021 at 04:21AM by Fandam_YT https://ift.tt/2SwbWOX

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